Emily Dickinson is one of several poets who lived a very unobtrusive life. She both lived and died in the small village of Amherst and was a recluse there for the last few years of her life. However, she was not a demure woman, as she intimated later in her life that she “had been anything but a model child” (Habegger 116). Emily was personable and formed strong emotional attachments to those that were closest to her like her sister-in-law, Susan Gilbert Dickinson. Emily Dickinson would not have achieved the notoriety she has today without the aid of Susan Gilbert Dickinson, not only posthumously but also during the author’s lifetime. Susan played a pivotal role in the formation of Emily Dickinson as a writer because of their shared intimacy with each other, as demonstrated by their correspondence, although this was a strong aromantic relationship.
It is easy to perceive Emily as an introverted and antisocial woman, but that is not the case. More recently, the perception of Emily Dickinson as a flamboyant ‘Belle of Amherst’ has become a more accepted image of Emily Dickinson. A recent film from Madeleine Olnek, “Wild Nights With Emily” decided to take this a step further by exploring Dickinson’s sexuality. The film posited that Emily was having an affair in a homosexual relationship with her sister-in-law, Susan. While the film may have strongly explored this relationship, this was not the first time the topic had been broached.
Every biography is incomplete without including some reference to the importance of Susan Gilbert Dickinson. It was Susan’s “entry into the family that would change it forever” (Habegger 269). Susan was only nine days younger than Emily and had had a hard life. Orphaned after the death of her father in 1841, Habegger says that her letters seem to indicate a nature that was “less distinguished for qualities of flight than for polish and self-possession” (266). She met the Dickinson sisters around 1848 and began her correspondence with Emily around that time. Emily wrote her voraciously from 1851 until Susan married Austin in 1856, even sending her some of her first poems. Although her letters grew increasingly shorter throughout the years, Emily remained close to Susan until the time of Emily’s death in 1886. In turn, “[h]er sister Sue recognized her genius from the very start and hoarded every scrap that Emily sent her from the time they were both girls of sixteen. Their love never faltered or waned. (Bianchi 64). Many of these letters express an intimacy that was deeply shared between the two women.
Rebecca Patterson was the first to propose that Emily Dickinson was a lesbian in her book The Riddle of Emily Dickinson, which was published in 1951. Her hypothesis is based on a handful of letters and one poem dedicated to Catherine Mary Scott Turner Anton or “Katie”. This was a time that was generally unfavorable towards lesbianism, especially in a community as small and intimate as Amherst. If Dickinson was a lesbian she would have had to have kept it secret. According to a book review by John Ciardi, “[o]bscurity, however, is Miss Patterson’s preferred clue: she plunges into her detective work like a vigorous and ambitious prosecuting attorney building a case of circumstantial evidence” (Ciardi 94). Although Ciardi is generally impressed with Patterson’s ability to extrapolate information to fit her hypothesis, he does not believe that her hypothesis is founded.
Criticism is generally ambiguous about whether Emily Dickinson was a lesbian or if her feelings could be placed under the category of “romantic friendship” (Comment 167). While her physical desires would always remain unrequited and not acted upon, she may have been hiding her sexual orientation. The nineteenth century was not accepting of homosexual relationships nor was it socioeconomically plausible. Even if Emily was a lesbian, there would have been very little benefit to openly expressing her sexuality. Her relationship with her sister-in-law, Susan Gilbert Dickinson was emotionally intimate, which led some scholars to believe that she was sexually attracted to her sister-in-law.
Critics have become more accepting of the seemingly subtle homoerotic tone that is found in some of her poems. Dickinson’s Poem 84 has especially come under severe scrutiny due to its supposed homoerotic subtext. Emily had sent the poem to Susan in 1859 in a letter:
Her breast is fit for pearls,
But I was not a “Diver” –
Her brow is fit for thrones
But I have not a crest.
Her heart is fit for home –
I – a Sparrow- build there
Sweet of twigs and twine
My perennial nest
The poem could be maternal imagery, but there is the idea that the speaker is lost in the ‘her’ of the text. Habegger says that this is the “lost sister to who waits for Sue” and that there is a great disparity between Emily and Susan; Emily “diminishes herself so drastically that anything like reciprocity becomes unimaginable” (Habegger 366). This could be merely expressing how Emily found an affinity with a kindred soul. However, it is thought that the original “manuscript thought to be sent to Bowles has ‘Sue’erased from its verso” (Comment 172). The expression to build a nest is an expression of sexual desire and a future with an individual.
There are other insights into the assumed homosexual relationship with Susan Gilbert Dickinson. There was a lull in Emily’s correspondence with Susan from 1855 to 1857 which was around the time of Susan’s marriage to Austin in 1856. There were no letters shared between them in 1856 which could be indicative of a strong emotional turmoil or “it is also possible that correspondence to Susan, along with other work, has been lost or was destroyed” (Hart 256). Bianchi also seems to indirectly acknowledge this hiatus by saying “[Austin’s] marriage to the “Sister Sue” of Emily’s lifelong adoration brought an outside element into the family, which bred some critical hours” (12-13). The marriage of Austin and Susan did put a strain on their relationship, but this could have also been due to the changing of familial roles.
Faderman made the argument that Martha Dickinson Bianchi, the niece of Emily Dickinson and the daughter of Susan Gilbert Dickinson, went to great lengths to “convince us that Dickinson had ‘normal’ girlhood involvements with young men ” (Faderman 202). Faderman says this may be because she wanted to hide the ‘truth’, or that her mother may have told Bianchi that she was not romantically involved with Emily Dickinson to lead her astray (202). In her book called “Life and Letters of Emily Dickinson,” there is a strange omission of the three hundred letters that were exchanged between her aunt and mother.
A few of these more ‘passionate’ letters are referenced in other anthologies of Emily Dickinson’s letters. Emily’s letter to Susan Gilbert Dickinson from June 11, 1852, was omitted in Martha Dickinson Bianchi’s collection of her letters. The letter itself is romantic:
I need you more and more, and the great world grows wider . . . every day you stay away — I miss my biggest heart; my own go wandering round, and calls for Susie […] Susie, forgive me, Darling, for every word I say — my heart is full of you none other than you in my thoughts, yet when I seek to say to you something, not for the world, words fail me. If you were here – and Oh that you were, my dear Susie, we need not talk at all, our eyes would whisper for us […] I shall grow more and more impatient until that dear day comes, for til now, I have only mourned for you; now I begin to hope for you. […] I add a kiss, shyly, lest there is somebody there!”
(Ward and Dickinson 211-212).
There is an undeniable passion that is found within this letter that Emily had a strong attachment to Susan. It is also important to note that this was before Susan’s marriage to Emily’s brother, Austin. As one critic said, “[t]his was no girlhood crush. Emily was a woman in her twenties. To say that she was ‘in love’ with Sue is to describe her emotional state accurately” (Fadermann 209). The passage speaks of both an emotional and also physical intimacy with each other, which Emily seems reticent to openly express.
Bianchi does not entirely conceal their relationship. Bianchi chose to reference a portion of a letter to Susan at the beginning of the biography, “I know I was naughty to write such things, and I know I could have helped it if I had tried hard enough, but I thought my heart would break and I knew of nobody here that cared anything about it – so I said to myself- we will tell Susie” (Bianchi 20). She tries to demonstrate that this was only a platonically affectionate relationship. She is careful to stress that it was a “perfectly normal young heart responding to natural wondering of impending maturity” and at the “stage [in her life, Emily] sentimentalizes as all young girls do and should” (Bianchi 20). Unfortunately, Bianchi does not include any letters from her mother to her aunt for us to conceptualize this relationship further. At first, it may seem heavy-handed but the correspondence could be otherwise misconstrued.
The language of many of the letters also seems to emphasize a strong romantic connection. In two letters that Emily wrote to Susan, she said “And I do love to run fast -and hide away from them all; here in dear Susie’s bosom, I know is love and rest, and I would never go away” (Ward and Dickinson 84). At first glance, it is plausible that this could be read as a romantic desire to be with her love. This is further emphasized in another letter in which Emily writes, “Why, Susie, it seems to me as if my absent Lover was coming home so soon — and my heart must be so busy, making ready for him” (Ward and Dickinson 215). Here Susan takes on the personification of an absent lover returning to their love. The content of such passages undeniably shows that Emily felt a strong love for her sister-in-law.
In 1854, she sent Sue a series of poems that are despairing and almost desperate (Bianchi 194-198). A common theme through all these poems is solitude, despair, and the condition of the soul. She writes in one of these, “There is another Loneliness/ That many die without, / Not want or friend occasions it, / Or circumstances or a lot” (Bianchi 195). It is not exactly clear what type of loneliness that Emily is referring to, but this letter only seems to demonstrate the intimacy that Emily seems to have felt towards her sister-in-law.
Although the language of many of her letters may be sentimental, it does not mean that she held romantic sexual feelings for her sister-in-law. Such passages might seem to indicate a homosexual relationship, but nineteenth-century America was largely homosocial. The majority of society was divided into categories for both men and women to form strong emotional and platonically physical relationships. It was not uncommon and “social configuration encouraged intense emotional attachments which were often acted out by kissing, caressing, fondling, and passionate pronouncements of love” (Faderman 208). Such relationships were not uncommon during that period.
Susan also in many ways represented an extension of the sisterly bond that Emily held in her family. Although Emily was close to her sister Lavinia, ‘Vinnie’, Susan stood as a complementary foil to Vinnie. One scholar posits that “Sue represents for Emily the other pole of womanhood: the antidomestic [sic] woman, tempter, betrayer, narcissist, and visionary, the woman in touch with power, possessed of secret knowledge, dangerous, reviled, and perilously desired” (Morris 325). Susan was able to provide an intellectual and social prowess to their relationship that complimented her relationship with her sister. Susan was her sisterly muse in which Susan stood “as an emblem for the heavenly, [while] Vinnie represents the earthly” (Morris 327). Emily shared a deep connection with Susan that was an extension of the family.
It is because they were intimate friends that Susan was trusted with reading and editing many of Emily’s poems. Bianchi writes that Susan was one of the first to ever read any of Emily’s poems. Emily “never told her family of her writing, and this is the only mention of any secret ambition or having her work known even on a day “a long way off.” The first poem dated, that she sent to Sister Sue, was in 1848” (Bianchi 65). Emily trusted Susan with her poems first among many of her friends and relatives and she would continue to play this role throughout Emily’s life. Susan was “probably more important to Dickinson as a reader, friend, literary collaborator, and editor” since they were “so close that writing was almost a mutual project” (Mitchell 218). Perhaps the two women assimilated each other’s styles. Mitchell quotes a passage of Susan’s writing to demonstrate her “own skill as a writer, partly because many details of her description are circumstantially similar to Emily Dickinson’s” (25). It was because she shared so much in common with Susan and trusted her that she was able to publish some of her poems during her lifetime.
Emily wrote to Sue in one letter, “Except Shakespeare, you have told me of more knowledge than anyone living- To say that sincerely is strange praise-” (qt. in Habegger 614). The note seems to imply that Susan had contributed greatly to Emily’s knowledge and confidence in her writing abilities. Emily allowed Susan to edit many of her poems and “[s]he was always eager to respond to Susan’s criticism” (Bianchi 78). Emily trusted Susan with her writing and subsequently published ten of her poems during her lifetime, some under Susan’s edits and promptings.
Susan was Emily’s editor and trusted collaborator for most of Emily’s life. Susan understood that Emily’s love was “generous, but it was also exacting and uncompromising, the expression of a powerful ego demanding that that friendship live up to a high standard” (Habegger 265). Emily Dickenson has truly been the “woman in white” who has graced the pages of literary history both unobtrusively while simultaneously making a large literary impact. While her poems are what have made her so immensely popular, it is her letters that truly give some insight into the character of Emily Dickinson. Although she appears to be quiet and demure, her letters and poems show a woman who was strong and emotionally passionate.
Although the assertion of Dickinson’s lesbianism may be erroneous, Comment posits a valuable point. In critical readings of conversations between males and females, “with or without proof of physical intimacy, readers tend to assume similar writing addressed to a man automatically signifies ‘heterosexual’ desire” (Comment 168). Even if her claims are incorrect, she at least brings valuable insight into the erroneous reading of the author’s letters. “The history of the emotion is everything. The poems live in their own desperation: the identification tag is nothing” (Ciardi 98). While it is important to view the author’s history in light of the text we must be careful in misreading the source material. Susan remained a pivotal friend, mentor, and intimate companion for Emily. Without Susan Gilbert Dickinson, we would not know Emily as well as we do.
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